Sunday, January 9, 2011

I'm out of titles for posts written on the eve of court :)

Tomorrow there is a custody hearing.  We will be before Judge Foth in the family law division.  Waverley's future will once again be ruled on by a stranger who has never met her.  Tomorrow's outcome dictates whether temporary custody will be granted to Wavy's biological mother or biological father.

I'd like to share a little more about a few things that we have previously held back.  

Immediately after we lost at the supreme court level the adoption agency apprised Wavybel's birthmother of the situation.  She was basically notified that unless she became involved, our failed adoption would result in the birthfather raising Wavy.  The birthmother lived out of state with her husband and 18 month daughter.  Since learning this they have turned their life upside down to do whatever needed to happen to give Wavy the brightest, happiest, safest, most predictable future.  

Wavy's birthmother and daughter have moved back to Kansas to be a part of her life.  The birthmother's husband serves our country in the military and has been traveling back and forth to Kansas as much as the army allows him to.  He is in the process of transferring to a Kansas.  They have spent time with Wavy daily, developing a relationship with her.  They show her love, affection, tenderness, and understanding.  They are willing to sacrifice so much to protect her best interests.

The court has really overlooked the birthmother and her familys' rights.  We hope tomorrow remedies that. While the supreme court ruling ran a smear campaign on her they showed great favor to the birthfather and his rights.  I am not going to say anything here to discredit the birthfather.  I will suffice it to say that we find do not find the birthfather to be able to provide a future for Waverley that is safe, predictable, and secure.  Our position is that the birthmother and her husband have done right by Waverley from the beginning.  They chose adoption when they were not in a place to parent.  They are choosing to parent now because they are the best option for Waverley.  They are amazing people and wonderful parents.  

We have sat at the front of the courtroom for two and a half years while Waverley's life has been discussed and ruled on and picked at.  We have raised a baby since her birth and the courts have demanded that we work with the people that are taking her from us with no regard to the hurt it will cause us or the toll it will take on a little girl to be taken from her mommy and daddy and sister.  We have been forced to sit at a table next to people that take cheap shots and tell lies to win custody of the girl that is ours.  Well tomorrow we don't even get a seat at the front of the room.  We will be sitting at the back, praying with all of our hearts, and hoping on this last day possible, that there will be some justice in this situation, and finally someone will care about what is best for Waverley.  We will pray that she will get to be raised by her birthmother and her family.  Please pray that with us tomorrow.  It's the hope we are holding onto.

Our prayers tomorrow are for:
(for justice, for a family that will love her unconditionally and place her needs first)
Judge Foth 
(wisdom, clear thinking, a heart for Wavy)
The birthmother's lawyer 
(words that speak to the judge, a sharp mind, clear thinking, a great memory for the case law that will be most helpful)
The birthmother and her husband 
(continued strength and love for Waverley)
Matt and I 
(calm hearts and nerves)

So appreciative of you,


Brett and Betsy said...

So precious. We love you guys and are praying for this precious gem. Over and over the day long, "God rescue Waverly. Do it."

Jami Nato said...

praying for all of this. you are covered in prayer...walk in that courtroom with full confidence knowing that God is there and has his hand in all these details.

Danielle @ Living Out Loud said...

Oh Molly, I can't take it. I simply cannot take it. The pictures, your words, the situation... I don't know how, but for God's sustaining grace, you are doing this. I will pray all night and all day. You have my word... and my heart.

Kelsey said...

I am praying like I've never prayed before!

Jessica Blake said...

you've got us fighting along side of you tonight and tomorrow. Praying Jesus will come with justice in her power for the ones he had created and loves.

Bethany said...

i'll be rallying prayers for you guys tomorrow!

Barbara said...

Praying for you all the are on ours hearts constantly!

Jenny said...

Praying right now!! I can't imagine, can't EVEN imagine what this journey has been like for you all. I know we serve a mighty God and He is able to do more than all we ask or even imagine!!!! That's what I'm believing and that's what I praying for today!!!!

Linnea said...

Still Praying.

Holding on to His word, "Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven." Matthew 18:19

Be blessed

Ashlee said...

We have been reading your blog every day... just praying for God's miracle with Wavy. Every day our family listens to K-Love... when the songs that you have on this blog come onto the radio, it puts us instantly into tears- thinking about your family. We have 3 boys, one of which is the same age as Wavy... we cannot even imagine the heart ache and pains you are going through, as you lose your daughter. Know that your church family is holding you up high and that all 5 of us are praying for your family daily.

Jinny Newlin said...

These pictures are, absolutely, precious, guys! I'm so sorry, again, that things didn't turn out as you expected them to in court and pray that God will sustain you through yet another week of uncertainty. Much love!

Amy Meeker said...

Hi Molly,
I've been reading your blog and praying for Wavy for some time now. Still praying....still hoping. Love the pictures.